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You’re probably here, reading this post, because you’re looking for ways to encourage your husband. Maybe it’s because he’s been a lot more down recently, maybe it’s because of an unexpected situation occurring in his life, or maybe it’s because he’s needing some spiritual uplifting. Whatever the reason, I’m glad you’re here! It means that you are here out of your love for him. And it means that you’re showing yourself to be a caring Proverbs 31 woman, acting in obedience to God by helping your husband.
The list below was not cultivated just by me. I spent some time with my husband asking him how men need encouragement and ways they feel most encouraged. I figured his point of view would be a little better than mine. So thanks to him, below are 15 ways you can encourage your husband!
1. Give him encouraging verses either through letters or texts.
I say letters or texts because it’s something tangible that he can return to. When he’s at work or out and about, a verse on a piece of paper or on his phone is quick and easy to access when he needs to see it. There is no better way to encourage your husband than through God’s Word. If you want some ideas of verses to give your husband, click here!
2. Encourage his spiritual traits.
If he’s really good at self control or patience, teaching or encouraging, let him know verbally! Give him some much needed confidence.
3. Pray for him and ask him what you can specifically pray for.
This is a beautiful way to show you care about him. Next to giving him verses from God’s Word, prayer is just as necessary for him. This will help you know how to pray for him while giving him the assurance that he’s being brought to the throne of God by his beautiful wife.
For some guided help to pray for your husband, use these beautiful “Prayers for My Husband” cards!
4. Remind him of the strength God has given him.
Men like to hear, especially from their wives, that they are strong – physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. My husband wanted to point out that just because your husband is feeling down or is being hard on himself doesn’t mean he’s not strong. But he may be thinking this lie. So give him those reminders, boost his confidence, and let him know he is strong.
5. Simply tell him you love him and that you are there right beside him.
Sometimes, a little goes a long way.
6. Make him laugh!
“Hey, remember when…?” This is one of my go to’s. Proverbs 17:22 says, “A joyful heart is good medicine.” And it’s so true! So try to make him laugh if you can (if you can’t, don’t be hard on yourself! Sometimes, they’re just not in the mood).
7. Tell him what traits you love most about him, spiritual or not.
Again, this goes with #4. They like to hear things that boost their self confidence. And it doesn’t always have to be spiritual. Comment on his appearance or his personality. Be genuine in your comments. Pour out your adoration of him.
8. Pray with him.
Not only is it important to pray for him in your own quiet time, but so is praying with him. Together, as one, go before the Lord and lay down everything at His feet. Come alongside your husband in this way. He needs it.
9. Don’t hover over your husband trying to get information out of him.
Give him room to talk or vent. Be there to listen and support. Don’t nag him about what’s wrong, but allow him the freedom to come to you on his terms. Trying to make him talk when he’s not ready is a sure way to get him to never talk about it. Be patient and let him know you’re there for him.
10. Tell him both what he needs to hear and wants to hear…WITH GRACE.
Sometimes what he needs to hear is not what he wants to hear, but deep down, his heart wants to hear what he needs to hear. I heavily stress WITH GRACE though. Tell him as you would want him to tell you what you need to hear. Talk to him not as someone who just needs to get it right, but as someone who needs loving. If you don’t know how to say something with grace, then “be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to anger” James 1:19.
11. Give input, but don’t overdo it.
I find myself talking, talking, talking and expanding, expanding, expanding on some input that I give my husband. And after awhile, he gets a blank look on his face. So my husband told me, “give input, but don’t overdo it.” Short and sweet!
12. Recognize and learn your man to know when to just listen or when to say something.
This takes time to learn this! But be intentional in learning when you need to listen or when it’s okay to speak.
13. Study the Word together.
Again, nothing better than being in God’s Word as one. Not sure what to study? Click here to find encouraging verses for your husband, and then read the passage surrounding each verse.
14. Be there.
Simple as that. Get off your phone. Put down your work. Give him some attention.
15. Ask him how he needs encouragement!
Just as I sought out how my husband, as a man, needs encouragement, you can do the same with yours. Get the info straight from the source!
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Encouragement coming from you is something highly valued by your husband. Encouragement coming from you will mean more to him than anything. So hopefully there is something in these 15 ways to help you know how to encourage your husband when he needs it. If you have other ideas, drop them in the comments below and help out your Proverbs 31 sisters!
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