Comments on: Christian Wives Working Outside the Home: Is it Biblical? https://boldlyrise.com/around-the-home/no-longer-two-but-one/christian-wives-working-outside-the-home-is-it-biblical/ Faith + Home + Military Thu, 16 Nov 2023 16:18:14 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=7.0 By: Brittanyhttps://boldlyrise.com/around-the-home/no-longer-two-but-one/christian-wives-working-outside-the-home-is-it-biblical/#comment-1241 Thu, 16 Nov 2023 16:18:14 +0000 http://boldlyrise.com/?p=458#comment-1241 In reply to Brittany Green.

I am so sorry you’re going through all this:( This breaks my heart to read. First off, you are of great value and worth, and you are not doing anything wrong. I am sorry that your husband is not seeing this. I wish I had an answer to help solve these issues. I think your husband is blinded by money and therefore refuses to see how much that is hurting you. If you haven’t talked to him about this, then that would be the first step to take. And I’m not just saying briefly mention it, but sit him down, make sure he’s listening, and be completely open and honest – just like you were here. If that doesn’t do anything, I think you need to bring someone into this situation who you trust and who can help intervene in a sense. Maybe someone from church or bible study, or a trusted friend of both of yours. He needs to see that what he is doing is hurting, not helping. I hope this helps even a little.

]]> By: Brittany Greenhttps://boldlyrise.com/around-the-home/no-longer-two-but-one/christian-wives-working-outside-the-home-is-it-biblical/#comment-1240 Thu, 16 Nov 2023 09:10:24 +0000 http://boldlyrise.com/?p=458#comment-1240 Thank you for writing this. It did not actually answer the question that has been nagging me, but I enjoyed your wisdom.
My husband and I have 2 children, a 6 year old and a 1 year old. My employment since I first had my oldest has been sporadic. A recent example, I did not work for 8 months while at the end of pregnancy with my youngest and until she was about 6 months old. This entire period, my husband constantly asked when I would begin working again and gave me a deadline. It was very aggravating as I spent the entire first 14 months home with my son while going to school part-time while married to my ex-husband, who was military and bringing an income of about a 1/4 of what my husband makes. We budgeted greatly and were not in any debt other than our vehicles. I was also a single mom for a year and a half making about the same amount, a few thousand less, and still kept up with my finances pretty well and even purchased a home and had minimal debt.
To see my husband be so consumed of the thought that if I don’t bring in a steady income, it punishes our family, it’s very hurtful.
After I began working again after my daughter was born, it was a work from home position, to allow me to still keep her with me while making him happy at the same time. I then proceeded to be able to make 2 full time incomes for almost 4 months while keeping her home and being able to put my oldest on the bus in the mornings and see him get home after school. I was still over all of the household duties.
About 2 months ago, I quit one of the full time positions snd then was soon let go from the other and have not worked a steady source of income since.
My husband constantly asks me yet again, when will I begin working? Tells me thar if only I had a paycheck coming in that we would be able to afford such and such.
My issue is that he devalues me if I’m not bringing in money. Everything I do for our home, him, the children seems to not be considered. Everything I do to save money by taking extra time isn’t considered. Saving daycare and after school costs isn’t considered. His attitude towards me dwindles and it’s very apparent. He spends money we don’t have, he is always wanting or needing some big ticket item. He asks me if it’s okay to purchase something snd if I disagree, it comes back to me not having an income.

Does he forget I made 8 months salary in 4 months? That I have saved us thousands of dollars in childcare and gas and sacrificed any normal “work” alone time that I would get by making it a point to only accept remote jobs?
Why does that not bring value, or why is it not seen? What am I doing wrong? You can’t force a person to see your worth and value. What can I do?
What would be the biblical answer to this problem? 🙁

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